Why Do People Use Phone Sex?
Like many forms of recreation, the reasons are as varied as the participants. A very big draw is the desire for a safe, protected form of intimacy. No one has ever gotten an STD or pregnant from phone sex. The second-biggest attraction is the growing need for convenient intimacy in our wide-traveling, busy lives. For soldiers on deployment, business persons traveling, and students who have to spend years away at college, our lives are steadily stretched over longer and longer distances, and our partners can’t always be with us.
Even single people can’t always find the time to invest in the dating scene. For somebody working their way through college pulling sixteen-hour days, the hectic schedule can be so constraining that a ten-minute “quickie” over the phone might be the only chance they get to blow off steam all week.
A good release for those in need!
There’s also that small, marginal set of people who have no other alternative due to real-life issues. Handicapped, terminally ill, suffering some form of disability, or just don’t get out much at all. To them, phone sex is the closest thing they can get to intimacy, period.
It is also highly discrete. No need to be caught sneaking in and out of apartments or having the neighbors jam their nose into your business and who you have over. No need to disturb your roommates by having a stranger intrude, or have to deal with someone spending the night. With phone sex, you can just dial up anywhere and have your time for yourself. As far as the outside world is concerned, you’re Mother Teresa living the chaste life.
What If You Have A Partner – Isn’t That Cheating?
What kind of arrangement or agreement do you have with your partner? Phone sex is similar in the involvement level from watching an adult movie or reading an erotic blog online. It’s just that the performances are “live” and one-on-one. So there is some level of specific involvement, but not nearly as much as getting lap dances or cavorting with escorts.
Now, some couples out there are refreshingly open. They watch porn together, engage in sex texting, they visit local adult bookstores together, or they happily snap nude photos of themselves and post them online to forums for evaluation. Some people just get a bang out of it! If you don’t know why, consider decades of monogamous marriage can require some bit of adventurous play just to keep things interesting.
There’s also the category of people committed in long-term relationships. But, they do have this one yearning desire. A fantasy they’ve always wanted to try. Maybe it’s a fetish they want to explore, or maybe even some bisexual tendencies. And where the other partner might not agree to try this with them because they simply have no interest, they might grant them the privilege of fulfilling this desire via phone sex.
If you find the need to hide something – anything – from your partner, then that is a betrayal of trust. This is cheating. But, if a partner knows and doesn’t mind, then it’s not cheating.
In fact, a stable relationship may emerge and thrive in which both parties occasionally partake of phone sex, browsing erotic content, or sexting – it’s more likely than you think! The “poly” movement is playing a role, throwing out the idea that we need to be necessarily monogamous.